What do dogs need most from us? What does a roaming dog have to do with a baby picking a dirty lollipop from the floor and licking it? Dog trainer Kristi Benson tells the story of a client who has a roaming dog with characteristic humor and clarity (and clever analogies!). And in telling the tale, Kristi has an important message for all dog owners about what our dogs need most from us—something that is both free and also intensive. TIME.